A Family Christmas
Christmas is especially the time when we think about and miss loved ones who are no longer with us and for some, this can be an emotional time of year.
Of course, we accept that Christmas is a time for visiting, or even staying with family members. It’s a time for embracing the family unit like no other time of the year, so why can it sometimes be so stressful? Arguments begin way back before the festive season takes off - who shall we invite -should we hold the dinner here or go to their house - what about the fussy eaters - smokers - how about the cost etc etc. Following this there is the problem of who to leave off the list and the arguments that follow to explain the reasons for this. All of this before Christmas has really begun. One way to try to beat stress is to make the house as calm and welcoming as possible and make sure everyone in it feels valued and appreciated. For example, little ones may bring home from school their efforts at drawing pictures or making cards, so whatever you really think of their work, try to ensure it is displayed where it can be seen, maybe in the corner of a shelf or in between a card display, then keep referring to it and praising them for their efforts. That way they can feel part of the organizations of what’s taking place.
Relationships can suffer quite badly at this time of the year, especially within split families. Children need to be considered, so leave the quarreling aside to make the whole time a memory for them to treasure. Another problem area to consider is that of tiredness. It's more exhausting to try to fit in all the aspects of the season, such as planning the days - buying presents - wrapping them - writing and sending the cards - buying and delivering the presents - shopping for food - entertaining the guest - the cooking and washing up - the list is endless! And this is all to be done while working as normal and doing all the normal daily things - so where do you get the extra time from?
It’s sad that if you’ve put in all that effort you can't feel as though you’ve enjoyed it as much as the others you’ve been tending to. You need to in-build a strategy to take care of yourself. Treat yourself to a pamper session, even if it’s just at home. Take the time for a facial, hot relaxing bath, hot chocolate or proper drink, then early to bed. By taking time out for yourself, even those few hours, will hopefully allow you to take a fresh perspective on what’s happening around you.
One of the best pieces of advice I can give anyone for times of stress is to think of actors and actresses - when they play a part, they’re believable, but it's only acting, so maybe you should act happy, even when you don’t feel it. That way you can fool people into leaving you alone. If you look frazzled, they’ll never stop keeping on at you, adding to your stress levels.
Cling onto the fact that when it’s all over you will have more happy memories of the season than bad ones, so make a little bit more effort and I’m sure you’ll enjoy it more!
If you’re concerned about the coming festive season, don’t forget our psychics are available 24 hours a day and many specialise in family and relationship readings.