Dealing with Heartache in Love
So here we are again, fast approaching St Valentine’s Day when the world seems to go romance crazy and everywhere you look there are starry-eyed couples brimming over with love and affection for each other. Or so it would seem!
While it’s great if you’re in a relationship, what about that percentage of people who don’t have a partner to share the day with, or far worse, those who have recently broken-up with their loved one? For a large part of the population this romantic time of year brings only sad memories, or even real heartache. However, there is no getting away from all the hype and constant advertising we see going on all around us, prompting us all to lash out on expensive gifts, nights out, cards and the like, to get the celebrations going and show our love!
So what if you’re not one of the millions who will be indulging in this annual ritual? Well don’t despair as there are lots of things you can do to enjoy the day without a partner. Firstly, start off by telling yourself you are a lovely person who is capable of enjoying themselves without needing to rely on others for your enjoyment. How about making a wish list of things you would like to do to ‘celebrate’ on your own on February 14th? What’s your favourite meal? Maybe treat yourself to an expensive, indulgent meal for yourself to cook at home, or order a take-away and don’t forget to buy in a box of your favourite chocolates or sweets. As for a celebration drink, it doesn’t have to be wine; maybe a liqueur or even champagne would suit your mood, so go for it!
If that above doesn’t appeal to you, there is always the opposite reaction in that you allow yourself to ‘wallow’ in the misery you are feeling – there’s nothing wrong with this approach as psychologists have shown that by doing this you can ‘out-run’ your sad feelings by putting things into perspective!
So how does this work? Set aside the day to spoil yourself away from other people. Maybe visit places that you visited as couple and bring forwards all the happy memories you have about it. Back home take out all the photos and mementoes from your time together and recall where and when they were taken or bought.
Treat yourself to a lovely luxurious soak in the bath, maybe with oils, and relax with your favourite music playing in the background and candles for atmosphere. While you relax, think about the future and decide what you want your future to be like. Do you want to travel abroad – how about planning a holiday? Or maybe you want to re-style yourself with new clothes or different hair style or even a new hair colour? The whole point of this approach is to let you see for yourself that there is excitement out there in your future for you to become what you want to do and be.
More importantly, looking at your past romance you should now feel that you are strong enough to close that chapter of your life and look to the future.
Whatever approach you take, the whole point of the exercise is for you to face up to the past and wrap it up and store it into a little mental box called ‘memories’.
One final piece of advice is for you to treat yourself to a reliable reading to find out just what the future hold or you o you can start to make plans. Here’s hoping you find the happiness you seek and that I’m sure you truly deserve! God bless!