We all associate the festive period of Christmas and New Year with trees, lights, presents parties, cards and, of course, families. Love them or loathe them, families play a big part in the festivities in one way or another. However, this is also a different time for many people, who maybe having a difficult or even lonely time, while others are in full celebratory mood. So for those of you who may be feeling a little bit lonely or lost and unloved this Christmas, I think (and hope) that the following may cheer you up!
Firstly, don’t forget that Christmas is no less for you than it is for everyone else, so you have a perfect right to spend it how you wish. Don’t think you are obliged to do what everyone else is doing, you can make the time special for yourself. Remember that people will be so concerned and wrapped up in their own arrangements and plans that they will be less interested in yours. Spread your time and effort over several days around the special day itself. That way you will still feel some of the excitement that surrounds the occasion, plus you will be part of it. Visit friends and relatives a few days before to deliver cards and take the time to ask about what they are planning. Enjoy their hospitality, and remember you are in their homes as they want you there, that’s a good link and feeling to have, so make the most of it.
These days there are many organizations that supply seasonal care and help for groups of people who have nowhere to spend the festive period. These include the Salvation Army, Church clubs, Age Concern and many others. They rely on volunteers who help collect funds, food, and clothing to provide a chance for the lonely and homeless to mix with others who may be in the same situation. New friendships can be made by those who you are helping, plus those you are working with. The camaraderie you will feel by volunteering for something such as this can boost your self-esteem and show you that you are very much appreciated by others. You’ll also feel a sense of enormous pride!
Of course, you may not feel inclined to volunteer for something such as this, so how about setting aside the whole day for your self and indulging in the things you feel would be nice for you? The night before, take out the clothes you will want to wear, anything in the wardrobe you would feel good in, including that ball-gown you bought but never wore! On the day itself take a long luxurious bath or shower, get dressed, or even spend the day in your pyjamas and dressing gown, then indulge yourself for the rest of the day. This is the one day of the year that you can rest assured you won’t be bothered by unexpected guests, mail-man knocking the door, unwanted nuisance phone calls and so on. Bliss!
Of course, there is nothing to stop you inviting a friend round to spend the day with you, nice if you are at the start of a friendship or relationship. A visit to a church service can lift your day and reinforce the mood of the season. Maybe a quiet walk can help you, or maybe a big box of chocolate, with no one to pinch your favourites? Whatever you choose to do, enjoy the day in your own way and have a Happy Christmas and a great New Year!