How do you overcome life’s setbacks?

 

 

 

 

I have never met a person who has everything and no challenges. I feel challenges are the mechanism by which humans learn. But how do you make your challenges less severe and
stop them from taking over your life. After all, the gift of life is also meant to be lived and enjoyed.

 How do you transcend life's setbacks without falling into a pit of despair and the belief that life's not fair which can disempower us.

Bad things can and do happen on the Physical Plane. And while it's important to properly process your emotions when obstacles come your way, it's equally important to not get trapped in victim mentality. Loss of a loved one is a difficult challenge all of us will experience at some point in our lives. Of course, we need to grieve the loss but it’s important not to hold onto that loss so tight you are not able to live the fullness of your own life.

When facing adversity, it's perfectly normal - and even healthy - to feel upset in the moment.

The problem is when you start to believe that bad things always happen to you, and that there is nothing you can do about it. The accompanying risk is chronic defeatism, and a feeling of "why even bother?"

It can take time to work through whatever emotions come up when you find yourself going through a challenge.

The goal is not to gloss over hardships, or to pretend that everything is fine when it really does not feel that way. However, though life isn't fair, you are never truly a victim of circumstances.

Learning to transcend a challenge can be very liberating.

The choices you make today brings the life you experience tomorrow. Certainly, as a widow I cried a lot. But there came a time when I felt I had cried enough. I needed to decide what I was going to do with the rest of my life without my soulmate. Did I really want my children to remember their childhood with the sadness of a mother who cried? Most certainly I did not. I wanted them to feel loved, safe and secure plus to experience the joy of fun and laughter. In making that choice, I moved from ‘grieving widow’ to just ‘widow’.

The early passing of my soulmate was the saddest day of my life but it was also pivotal to my development. I learnt to be more self-reliant, to accept help when I needed it, to value true friends and many more lessons. It set me on a path of spiritual development to discover who I am. Now I feel the generosity of my soulmate who gave me the opportunity to learn so much in this life.

Life is not fair. But you can learn to transcend the limiting beliefs you hold deep inside of you in order to create a happier and more liberating future.