What a Bunch of Weeds Taught Me About Life Values

 

 

 

 

What Are Your Life Values?

When I first moved to south-west France, I was struck by how much more vigorous and colourful the vegetation was compared to the UK. As we settled into village life, we were kindly invited to dinner by a neighbour. I had noticed their garden was very practical, with a large vegetable plot. Ours, by contrast, was filled with flowers—and my beloved herb garden, of course. Much of the credit goes to the previous owner, who was clearly a passionate gardener.

Wanting to offer something thoughtful, I picked a bunch of bright yellow flowers from the patch outside my kitchen window - flowers I had enjoyed looking at daily. I thought my new friend might appreciate them too.

They were received graciously and placed in a vase in a prominent spot. We had a lovely evening.

But when we got home, my husband turned to me and asked gently,

"Did you realise you gave them a bunch of weeds?"

I was mortified.
Had I embarrassed us? Did they think I was ignorant - or worse, rude? It felt like such a shame at the start of a new friendship, especially when we knew no one.

But then something shifted.

It made me ask: Who decides if a plant is a weed or a flower?

To me, if it's colourful, joyful to look at, and loved by bees - why not call it a garden plant? Who says it doesn’t belong?

To this day, our lawn is a wild mix of field grass, clover, and weeds. Right now, the dandelions are in full bloom. Here's a photo - what do you think?

Is it beautiful or unwanted?

This simple garden moment speaks to something larger.

Who decides if a person is good or bad? What if someone has been judged - by culture, by appearance, by past mistakes? Are they really "weeds"? Or might they bring beauty, healing, or joy in their own way?

For me, I choose to judge both plants and people on how they make me feel.
✨ Do they bring joy?
✨ Do I feel safe and seen in their presence?
✨ Do they live without harming others?

That, to me, is enough.

What are your values? How do you decide what belongs in your life - and what doesn’t?